Grief can be experienced at any age. A child with a toy taken away or a promise never kept because of any reason can experience grief. They may be hard to console but they effectively release the grief they are feeling by crying their heart out. Abuse and trauma can also cause grief when the person thinks that self-respect was gone. 

Grief is an emotion that helps us to let go of what doesn’t really serve us. It is a natural reaction to the loss of something important. It includes thoughts, patterns, habits, experiences, people, or material possessions. It leaves a mark on our minds to help us absorb the lessons that we learn together with the experience that caused grief.

Grief can exist when we can’t have something that we want. Even when we have enough, we can also experience grief when we can’t get something else, different, or new until we let go of what we already got. It’s true that getting more will cause us to end up running out of room for new things. The part when we can’t decide which to let go also causes grief.

How Does Holding Grief Become Toxic

The design of the physical systems in our body is focused on receiving and releasing. The process will be disrupted when we have the trouble of getting something out. This problem of letting go will cause harmful substances to be absorbed too, especially if the time is prolonged. Keeping the harmful things in our bodies is not beneficial, which will eventually impact our health. The impact of losing the ability to let go of the useless things is unimaginable.

This system also applies to our mental and emotional processes. As stated above, grief is useful but only limited to a certain point. Holding it in will cause the unreleased feelings to become toxic gradually in time. 

Effects Of Holding Grief

As humans, our system of remembering things is influenced by emotions. We have issues of hanging on to things, people, situations, circumstances that actually don’t serve us.

In fact, medical knowledge suggests that our bodies already know what our words have long implied: that grief can, quite literally, sicken. In 2018, Get Healthy Stay Healthy published an article titled “5 Ways Grief May Affect Your Health” which is authored by Pfizer Medical Team. It discussed that grief can cause weakening of the immune system, heart problems, alcohol and substance abuse, depression, and poor sleep. 

While grief alone causes these things, what’s more when a person tries to hold grief in? The unreleased feelings will rot into toxic thoughts. Day by day, the effects will pile up and will manifest into other toxic results. The thoughts might not be harmful but they prevent us from experiencing something else. It can cause the person to make the wrong decisions, and when the bad experiences pile up, it can cause a long-lasting cycle of unfortunate events.

Release Your Grief

Loss can leave you cold or numb but when grief is released, the toxic thoughts will stop altogether. However, you deserve to experience change after a loss in a way that it doesn’t leave you traumatized, cold, numb, and disconnected.

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Erena Oliver