WHO declared 10 October as World Mental Health Day, with the overall objective of raising awareness of mental health issues around the world and mobilising efforts in support of mental health. As a relationship coach, I believe that taking care of mental health have a significant impact on handling stress and relationships.

However, nurturing mental health is always necessary every day of the year. According to the National Science Foundation, the average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. 80% of these were negative, and 95% were the same repetitive thoughts as the day before. These negative thoughts are stressful when they manifest to actions, and will affect our relationships later that day.

Empowering positive thoughts and suppressing these thoughts are tiring activities, and our minds need breaks to maintain our mental health. Take time to try these tips as a treat to your mental health because you deserve peaceful moments of your day.


I know you’ve heard it before, but do you remember the last time you stretched your arms? You know it – stretching is relaxing! It is because exercise releases feel-good stress-relieving hormones. As you already know, exercise will help you stay physically fit, a trait which empowers healthy relationships.


Do you know a friend who is expert at budgeting, decluttering or time management? The probably told you at least once how satisfying they feel after they finish those tasks. You also likely enjoy “before and after” photos or videos, satisfying, aren’t they? Give it a try on your dining table – I’m sure you and your spouse will feel relieved!


Unconsciously, we breathe deep before or after stressful moments, especially on discussions with a loved one. It is because stress and anxiety can affect your breathing patterns, which has flow-on effects on how your body and mind feel. Taking a few deep breaths can help slow your breathing and heart rate, relax your muscles and calm your mind.

Take a ‘time out’

Time out isn’t only effective for kids. There is a reason why adults have lunch breaks. All ages are vulnerable to stress, so you should at least have a “me time” every week. A hobby, or a random thing you did for fun when you were a child, do what you love. Couples fight about it often, because everyone knows that it’s crucial.


According to Mayoclinic, Meditation can wipe away the day’s stress, bringing with it inner peace. Haven’t tried it yet? Maybe a friend of yours knows about it. For sure, there are coaches near you who are ready to guide you on how to do it effectively.

Work With Me

If you think that there are other concerns other than stress which makes you feel powerless and disconnected, don’t hesitate in getting help. I believe that my passion and experience in supporting people enrich themselves and their personalities will help you. You deserve having a stress free journey with the people you love. I know you can do it!

Erena Oliver | Relationship Coach