Your partner is a separate person with unique strengths and weaknesses and also needs acceptance like you. If you forgot this fact when you are in a relationship, it’s good to review your expectations and keep them real. It’s different from lowering your standards because knowing what you want and knowing what is real are entirely separate things.
These few tips will help you set realistic expectations in your relationships with your partner, family, and friends.
People Change, so Are Their Looks.
Having their appearance as a basis for your attraction will make you disappointed over time. They are only responsible for their self-care but not their natural appearance.
Intimate Moments Also Need Regulation.
Bonding with friends, having sex with your partner, getting it tough with your parents or children, all needs regulation. They all have obligations to attend too, so get that expectation real before it makes you feel undesirable.
The Spark Loses but You Can Reignite It.
Do you miss the fun early days of your relationships which is already gone? Anyone can initiate and be responsible for rekindling the flame.
You Need Different Amounts of Alone Time.
Relationships require a healthy amount of distance that breeds a desire for closeness. Anyone should be free to meet other people and have a life outside the relationship. If you both prefer to be together round the clock, make sure you don’t end up arguing with each other or other people.
Even the People Who Love You the Most Will Avoid You Sometimes.
Mistakes, disagreements, and jealousy can put distance between you and that important person. Everyone has a unique way of fixing or abandoning broken things like relationships. So make sure that you set your expectations real regarding this matter.
Things Are Mostly Not Equal, Including Feelings.
Everyone’s priorities change over time, so every aspect of your relationship is rarely even. It’s either you or the other who needs to do favours such as helping, apologising, or forgiving. So don’t expect you or the other always to take care of things.
They Don’t Always Know What You Are Thinking, and It’s vice Versa.
Anyone among you in your relationships will eventually make the other upset. Being able to anticipate each other’s needs is an advantage, but frequent assumptions without asking to bring disappointments sometimes. Examples are doing favours or giving gifts which might be unsolicited.
You Are Not Always Responsible for Other People’s Happiness and Fulfilment.
This part is the trickiest aspect of relationships; You might want to make the other person happy, or you expect them to do it for you. The truth is that it doesn’t always work. It’s rare to completely fill the void in other people’s lives at all times.
It’s Possible to Manage Your Expectations in Your Relationships
There are times when any of you need to compromise and come together with matched expectations. But having an honest conversation and being open with your expectations in your relationships will make you feel more comfortable together.
Are You Experiencing Too Many Frustrations in Your Relationships Lately?
Maybe you have unrealistic expectations. I am happy to make it comfortable with you, so let us talk about it to confirm what brings you disappointments in your relationships.