No matter who we are, we all have thoughts swirling around in our heads. Every day, we have thousands of ideas, urges, feelings, emotions, and memories. But they are not facts, and they are not always true, even if they seem to be.

Are You Choosing to Believe Negative Thoughts?

Do you always think about your imperfections? Are you continually thinking something will go wrong? Well, overthinking can produce stress, and it can increase your chances to develop mental illnesses. But worry not, the brain can rewire through training negative thoughts to positivity. Here’s why.

The Way You Think about Yourself Turns into Your Reality

Our thoughts feel real and believable, yet they’re not always that helpful in making the kind of life that we like. Ideas that tell “I’m not good enough, I’m terrible at this work, I should be like them” rarely do good to us.

Do you recognise these thoughts of self-judgment and self-criticism? Do you find them helpful?

Thoughts, Feelings and Behavior Have Links Between Them

Your thoughts still directly influence how you feel and how you behave. So if you think you’re a failure, you’ll feel like a failure. You’ll then act like a failure, which reinforces your belief that you must be a failure. But I know that you like to be otherwise.

It Might Be Your Beliefs That Hold You Back 

Have you ever experienced someone complimenting you, but you think that is a lie? Someone who develops the belief that he’s a failure, for example, will view each mistake as proof that he’s not good enough. When he does succeed at something, he’ll chalk it up to luck.

What You Should Believe Instead

Are you convinced that your thoughts will manifest into actions and therefore shapes your reality? We’re not claiming that positive ideas have magical powers. But optimistic thoughts lead to productive behaviour, which increases your chances of a successful outcome. So instead of reacting in regrettable ways, here’s a guide to help us stay aware of our thoughts.

Observe Yourself

Observing your thoughts is a skill that takes practice, like playing an instrument. Sometimes it’ll be easy for you to be able to notice and respond to your thoughts. Other times, you might have to work hard to get some distance from them. 

Have Some “Me Time”

Pay attention to what affects your thinking. Could it be a past situation? Is it a current situation? 

Sit down and write everything you believed triggered your negativity and then do something about it. Distract yourself, do your favourite hobby, anything that entertains you. The purpose is to quiet your mind for a while, until you relax, and can handle your thinking better.

Plan and Act

Have a daily journal where you will write anything positive, and even negative, that you did during the day. The purpose of this is to train your mind to find positivity in negative. An example is looking at your journal and seeing how far you have come when you feel down.

Believe in Yourself

Instead of blaming yourself, accept what you cannot change and focus on the things you can. Reflect on the mistakes you’ve made so and use them as your learning moments.

Start Appreciating and Transforming Yourself

It might sound easier than done but is achievable. Well, it will take practice and lots of patience to control your pessimistic thinking. Self-talk using a mirror. Repeat affirmations, and you will have the confidence to overcome stressful thoughts. You’ll also realise how powerful it is to look to yourself in the eyes and have a good talk.

Choosing Your Thoughts Is Important

Having the right thoughts gives you the right decisions, which will lead to the right actions without regrets. Your mind is more powerful than you know. You have the choice to have an easier and nicer life. You May have had a life-time of putting yourself down. But you have a choice: Do you want to continue believing your old thoughts, or start appreciating and transforming yourself?

Whatever you want in life, believe you deserve it and the universe will serve it.

—unknown

Still Having Difficulties to Align Your Thoughts to Your Goals?

Let’s have a talk about it in one of the following days. My doors are open for a coffee chat where I am all ears for your stories. I hope this blog will turn you in the right direction, helping you stay strong against the thoughts that are not helping you.